INVEST YOUR SINGLENESS

But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:   ( 1 Corinthians 7:32 )

Everyone must understand that life comes in phases; we develop from childhood, youthful and into adult stage. Each of these life’s phases occurs once in your lifetime, and so that time for each phase is valuable and must be utilized productively. Investment literally, is the act of allocating resources with the expectation of generating income or profit in the future. Now that you are single (youthful), how are you investing in your personal development for the profit of your future aspirations? As a single, this is the phase you must begin to invest in yourself for the future. Note: time waits for no one. Many Sisters are having thoughts on settling down in the future, but are not investing their time profitably in order to secure this desired marital bliss or careers they envision. Many singles of today are not taking the necessary commitment to utilize this single phase wisely. Many are found in engaging in unprofitable schemes such as clubbing, playing video games, watching BBN (Big Brother Nigeria), keeping ungodly relationship/friends, listening to worldly music etc. those who indulges in the aforementioned situation are not wise. 

Many singles wishes to have a successful career, they aspire to become great in life, or in their respective endeavors, but are not taking the necessary steps to help them fulfill their dream. Marriage as many are thinking about is one of the most important decisions one has to make in life, and before that can be actualized; there are some levels of preparations that are required. 

Spiritual Investment: The foundation of a healthy marital bliss is demonstrating godly values, i.e. being born again, filled with the fruits of the spirit, these makes the presence of God to dwell with you. 2 Peter 1:6-9, 

Godly Character: As a single sister, you must ensure you are developing character traits that makes for a virtuous woman, deal with any bad attitude in you, because these are unprofitable for marriage. Subject yourself to character check; are you the get angry type, stubborn, un-submissive, nagging, lack of respect, abusive, fighting and quarrelling, or you snub house chores, you must deal with this odd character traits, before marriage, because they are foment marital strife, and it’s one of the lead causes of broken marriages. If you are disobedient, proud and arrogant to your father or brothers it will not change in marriage. Titus 2:3-5, Prov. 14:1, 31:10-11

Good Cook: is unfortunate that many sisters cannot prepare good home meal, for such sisters they avoid being in the kitchen, and which is very wrong, you must know how to prepare delicious delicacies. This is a core function of the woman in the home. Eccl. 9:10 

Finance: You can lay your hands on something that will enable you earn and save money, it shows you are industrious, and a great trait that attracts respects. Know what you are good at or what you have passion for, that can enable you make profit and go ahead and do it now. Many women like you are becoming CEO’s of their own company even at a young age have a plan and purpose for your life financially. Prov. 31:13-19

Health& Hygiene:  you must know your health status i.e. genotype, blood group, do you have allergies, dietary choices, or certain health reactions etc. your health status must be compatible with that of your future partner. Furthermore, personal hygiene is paramount, marriage isn’t for unprepared sisters. Those who can’t look after themselves and keep their home clean at all times are incompetent.  Prov. 31:27-31

Age: Marriage is not for a boy or girl, is for a man, and you must have attain the acceptable age as described for the church as brother before you get married, at 13,16 or 20. Marriage shouldn’t be your focus. That age bracket is given for you to invest in yourself.  Gen. 24:4-8

Emotional: Marriage comes with challenges and as a sister; you must be emotionally stable to handle such challenges as they arise. There are emotional experiences in marriage that can make you to become angry at yourself or spouse. Emotional situations that may lead to frustrations, disappointments, discouragements, fears, you must develop yourself to handle such experiences the right way. Gen.29:30-35

Knowledge:  A lot of single approach marriage with high expectations and low preparations. Is unfortunate many singles draws knowledge about marriage from worldly movies, romance magazines, or TV soap-opera. The origin of marriage is embedded in God’s word, so to understand this institution; we must consult God’s word not movies. Furthermore, as a way of investment, you must read books on relationship from godly authors, attend seminars/conferences. Knowledge makes you valuable for marriage.  Hosea 4:6, 

Every single is expected to by this message to begin to refocus our mindset in regards preparations towards marriage. We are required to begin now to put into practice the necessary levels of preparations as itemized above. Remember this phase of your life is invaluable and must not be careless with, because you cannot actualize your future aspirations for marriage without first laying the ground work for it. We must discipline ourselves in this regard, in other to achieve marital success, remember without discipline, there is no such thing as success. As you begin to invest in yourself through this message, you will position yourself for a blissful marriage, obtain God’s blessings and become rest assured of your ability to conveniently handle any martial challenges.